Differences between Sexes!

Seem to me the wives need to put in effort to keep the marriage healthy, while the husbands just “cruises” along.

That was the feeling after the “Strengthening Family Relationship” forum last Sunday.

Hope I am wrong.

Brother Chee Seng was one of our panelists. He shared mostly from the man’s point of view. Man needs “accessories”, even in a marriage. He cited an analogy of a man spending time to fix a sport rim on his car and fancy over car gadgets. So when a man does not find those “accessories” in his marriage, he looks elsewhere for them. When a relationship has problem, “wife talks, while man runs”.

That prompted the female panelist to remark: “It’s not fair! …”

Yes, I agree. It seems men are always at fault.

But why are men like that? As the moderator in this forum, I asked the 2 husbands present to comment. Aahh! Switch topic to father versus children.

I wish I was a participant so that I could speak up for the men. So, here, I will share why men are like that. Just look at what a man is thinking most of the time. LOOK AT THE MALE BRAIN

Ladies, I will give you a few minutes to digest that.

“When the man can’t find the “accessories”, he will look elsewhere”, that is what Brother Chee Seng said. So do you know what accessories Brother Chee Seng are talking about now? And do you know now why man has a problem in listening? Look at the male brain again.

Now, let’s look at the FEMALE BRAIN

See the differences?

OK. I must state here that these pictures are given to us by Rev Dr Rick Griffith, lecturer of Singapore Bible College (SBC) when we are studying the Role of Women in Old Testament Background. Dr. Danny Goh, Dean of Pastoral Counselling in SBC also showed us these pictures when I was studying in his class on Building Strong Family. The point here is that we, husband and wife need to know the differences and adjust ourselves to one another’s need.

Of course, not all men let their sex drives run wild like Edison Chen. But most would operate it at the threshold of legal and “trouble-free” limit. But sometime it goes off limit, like King David and King Solomon. Also, I believe God makes men this way so that the human races do not go extinct after a few generations. But it swings to the other extreme because of the evilness of heart, and so need be self-controlled (fruit of the Spirit). Certainly the wife can help the husband if they know the male brain.

It is appropriate at this juncture to quote the Apostle Paul’s

4The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. 5Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
(guess while it is found)

So, husbands, now that you have seen what the female brain is, don’t just cruise along in your marriage!!

PS: The pictures are meant as a joke. http://www.wolfescape.com/Humour/MedPicts/BrainMaleFemale.gif